Calling all wedding guests! What to do and what not to do while attending a wedding.

Happy Spring and Happy Wedding Day!  Today marks the start of our wedding season here at Kickstand Events and we couldn’t be more excited for great families and friends, happy marriages, and of course, beautiful wedding days!  We often talk about things the bride, groom, and families can do to make the wedding day a great success and today we’re taking a different approach.  Most of you out there have been wedding guests at some point and we’ve probably all seen some bad behavior of guests that, well, disrupts the wedding day.

Today’s blog brings a new perspective to attending a wedding.  Nick Damore, a frequent wedding guest and enthusiast, has a couple suggestions for what guests should avoid on the wedding day.  Here’s what he has to say on the topic:


“You’ve spent countless hours planning and stressing over every minute detail of your wedding; crossing your fingers everything looks cohesive and goes exactly as planned.  As we know from reality television or possibly personal experience, that isn’t a guarantee.  Even if you have done everything right, your special day could be marred by the actions of clueless guests.  This is a short guide that can help keep your wedding from falling prey to these classic moment-killers.

1.  Don’t make war:  It’s understandable that people break up, it just shouldn’t be at your wedding.  Nothing kills the mood of celebrating the blossoming of a new love by watching the catastrophe of an old love exploding in front of everyone.  Angry shouting has no place at your wedding.

2.  Don’t make love:  It’s easy to get caught up in the moment at a wedding.  Watching a new couple sharing their love openly with their closest family and friends.  The romance spreads and pretty soon, people start getting ideas of their own.  Control yourselves!  Yes, love is in the air, but getting caught in the act would be embarrassing for everyone involved.  Wait until the wedding night.  If the bride can do it, so can the guests.

3.  Don’t make a surprise toast:  Toasts are another moment where emotions tend to get the best of people (I immediately think of Ted Mosby in How I met your mother).  There is a certain order to the speeches as well that must be considered.  Usually, the father or mother of the bride or groom is the headliner.  If after an inspiring toast by the bride’s father brings everyone to tears, there is no need for your co-worker to grab the mic and start telling a funny break-room story.  This isn’t open mic night at the coffee shop, don’t touch the mic unless you’re asked to.

4.  Know your dance floor limits:  Getting everyone on the dance floor is fun and a sign that everyone is having a ball.  The problem emerges when 50 year old Uncle Larry decides he wants to try “the worm” for the first time ever and kicks the bride in the process.  It is almost a guarantee that someone will film these atrocious moves and the only two outcomes of this taboo behavior are possible: embarrassed family and friends and a spot in a wedding montage on America’s Funniest Home videos.

5.  Leave the photos to the pros:  The bride and groom spend considerable amounts of their budget of photography, sometimes videography, to make sure not one moment of the celebration is undocumented.  This means there is no reason why good old Uncle Larry should be crouched 1 foot from the bride’s face, with his cheap handheld digital camera, flashing uncontrollably.  Especially during the ceremony.  I realize it’s important to capture this special moment, but leave it to the people who were hired to do so.  The act of amateurs running around the ceremony in circles, changing their angles, and flashing up a storm is more of a distraction than anything.  They are making guests focus on what an ass they are being instead of how beautiful the bride looks, and that’s always a recipe for disaster.

These simple rules could help keep your wedding from falling into the traps that have spoiled weddings for hundreds of years.  You may have noticed an important tip left out, but I only did so because it is common sense and usually the root of all the bad behavior mentioned above:  Don’t get blackout drunk.  This goes for the bride and groom, too!  You want to be able to remember the day you’ve spent so long planning.  If you and your guests follow this guide, your big day is sure to be a big success.”


A good rule of thumb is to act as if your grandmother is watching over you … you certainly don’t want to upset Grandma!  Be self-aware and conscious of what the wedding day means to the family, bride, and groom.  With that in mind, grab a drink, a dance partner, and have a blast!  After all, you’re there to celebrate a new chapter in the lives of those you love!

Have a great weekend!



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