I hope everyone enjoyed their holiday weekend! We had a chance to relax, catch up with friends and family, and pig out. I must say, I made one of the most fabulous sauces I’ve ever made on Christmas night. It was delightful!
I spoke to a friend yesterday who is engaged and getting married in New England, and while we were talking, we touched on the topic of photography “lists.” These photography lists are a compilation of poses, people, and photo opportunities the bride would like the photographer to capture on her wedding day. I would like to start off by saying, for the record, that yes…you hired the photographer. But–you hired that photographer because of his/her past work, creativity, professionalism and personality (well, one should hope, at least). You did not hire him/her because you need someone to do exactly as you say. That, my friends, would be called a servant.
Things like “the first kiss”, “bridal party jumping”, “groom’s socks”, etc. are all offenders on this “list.” There is a cautious battle between asking your photographer for a few photos that you’d like to have as keepsakes, and simply taking trendy photos that you’ve seen all over fancy wedding blogs and Pinterest. Although, I’d like to say, that Pinterest is a great resource for wedding ideas, but keep in mind the reality of the ideas. Sorry–ADD.
The best bet is to enlighten your photographer with any photos you’d like taken that he/she may not know about. For example, if you are using a brooch from your great-grandmother on your bouquet, or if your brother’s wife just had a baby, or that the plates on your tables are family heirlooms, these are all things you should make your photographer aware of. Sending a list of countless poses and obscure photo opps is limiting the creativity of your photographer–one of the main reasons you hired him/her.
So, do yourself (and your photographer) a favor and keep the communication open and share a few of the photos you’d like to have as keepsakes. But–keep in mind, he/she is not your servant. I think Jasmine Star has said it best, from a photographer’s point of view, in her post here.
Photo credit: Theo Milo Photography